• Infidelity & Complicatedness

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 8, 2010
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    Infidelity is never a simple matter. Brothers & Sisters has done a good job of illustrating this in last night's show "Resolved" aired 11/07/10.  Too many people simplify affairs into bad guy/good guy. Yes, Scotty admits he was WRONG in capital letters and he has a story to tell about… Continue Reading

  • Narcissism & Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 30, 2010
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    You might wonder what Picasso, Ben Roethlisberger and Mel Gibson have in common? They are all men who ended up with power, fame and a reputation for abuse in relationships. Narcissism means other people are merely the audience. This is not about a diagnosis of narcissism, it is about the… Continue Reading

  • Solving the Manipulation Problem in Relationships Part 2 of 3

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 23, 2010
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    The previous post briefly described the emotional toll the game of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor costs any relationship. I offer my triangle of mental health: First and foremost, a fearless honesty requires a willingness to look within and take responsibility for your mistakes and problems. Instead of blaming the other… Continue Reading

  • Broken Hearts, Breaking Up & The Brain

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 30, 2010
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    [caption id="attachment_1109" align="aligncenter" width="425" caption="Broken Up or Cocaine Addict?"][/caption] The brain is where it's at in terms of making psychotherapyidea more effective. Brain research is so exciting it's almost enough to make me want to start my career over again. One of the most difficult things I encounter is when… Continue Reading

  • Fighting Couples & Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 16, 2010
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    One of my objectives in couples therapyidea is trying to encourage both people to feel safe enough to speak from a more vulnerable place. This can be very hard to do because of defensiveness and a history of unresolved problems. There is some exciting new research that may help couples… Continue Reading

  • Relationships & Early Recovery

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 25, 2010
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    Early recovery from addictions is a hard process. The success rate of drug or alcohol rehab is only 20%. Recovery requires self-absorption in order to stay on track. This means partners and families get left behind out of necessity. Addicts are overwhelmed with learning what it means to be sober.… Continue Reading

  • Real Love is About Paying Attention

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 5, 2010
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    The most authentic love story I've read in a long time is Lark and Termite by Jayne Anne Phillips. It tells the love story of Lark, half-sister of Termite, who has hydrocephalus (a condition of fluid in the brain which enlarges the head). In the backdrop are three more unusual… Continue Reading

  • Anxiety, Control & Criticalness Impacts Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 2, 2010
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    Control and criticism are often side effects of anxiety. They are like a set of earrings that match the necklace of anxiety. Alcohol and addictions can be the matching bracelet to this jewelry because that becomes a solution to tamp down the fears. When someone controls the labels alphabetically on their… Continue Reading

  • The Sweetness of Long Term Loving

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 21, 2010
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    I don't hear much or read much about how sweet life can be when you've loved somebody over the long haul and done the hard work to solve and survive problems. There isn't any trouble about who takes the garbage out; because who ever is home and remembers, simply does… Continue Reading

  • 3 Problems When You Bash Your Partner

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 13, 2010
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    It is so easy to complain. Many women bash their partner to their girlfriends. Whining to someone else rather than having a truthful dialogue with your partner is not a good idea. Reading an entire stack of books that places all the blame on one person is a tragic stance.… Continue Reading

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