• It’s Deadly to be Either Too Nice or Too Demanding

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 16, 2010
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    Nice guys finish last in relationships. This means you aren't making enough clear statements about who you are and what you want. Too often nice guys will hide their own wants in a question. So they ask, "Will you have the kids fed?" instead of the more authentic statement, "I'd… Continue Reading

  • Narcissism & Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 30, 2010
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    You might wonder what Picasso, Ben Roethlisberger and Mel Gibson have in common? They are all men who ended up with power, fame and a reputation for abuse in relationships. Narcissism means other people are merely the audience. This is not about a diagnosis of narcissism, it is about the… Continue Reading

  • Real Love is About Paying Attention

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 5, 2010
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    The most authentic love story I've read in a long time is Lark and Termite by Jayne Anne Phillips. It tells the love story of Lark, half-sister of Termite, who has hydrocephalus (a condition of fluid in the brain which enlarges the head). In the backdrop are three more unusual… Continue Reading

  • Coping After Someone Dumps You

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 16, 2010
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    Letting go of someone you've loved can be exquisitely hard to do for many people. If you've been taken by surprise, if you've been misleading yourself about how they feel or if you've been lied to, full recovery can seem just out of reach. It's so human to torture yourself… Continue Reading

  • Dating Lessons & (500) Days of Summer

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 14, 2010
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    This is a movie treasure that captures the true messiness of love and dating. It is unique in telling the story from the male point of view and uses a terrific soundtrack. Netflix it now, especially if you're heartbroken and still single. Love, almost always starts off with one person… Continue Reading

  • The Power of Fantasy and Overly Generous Women

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 19, 2009
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    "To answer your question," said Abigail, "I always gave Oscar the benefit of the doubt. That's how I put up with him."                                                        … Continue Reading

  • Nobody Gets All the Pieces of the Pie

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 26, 2009
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    Some people get the happy childhood, some people get a life-long relationship, some people get kids, some people get jobs they love, some people live near the beach, some people have close relationships with their siblings, some people take lots of vacations, some people get physical health, some people have… Continue Reading

  • 9 Healthy Things to Look for When Dating

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 9, 2009
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    My very first blog entry on Feb.12th was 20 Things to be Wary of When Dating.  This is about the positive things to look for.  1. Do They Say What They Mean and Mean What They Say? This is the most important one. (Ask yourself  is this also true of… Continue Reading

  • Love Brings Out the Best In You & the movie Last Chance Harvey

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 7, 2009
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    I love vacations at Chautauqua Institution because there is the opportunity to go to lectures. Lectures are important to me because I love new ideas and other ways of thinking. On August 3rd we heard Richard Brown, who teaches Film 101 at NYU. He asks all his students to not… Continue Reading

  • Considering Women Lucky to be Single

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 4, 2009
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    [caption id="attachment_65" align="alignleft" width="145" caption="The Mary Tyler Moore Show originally aired from 1970-77"][/caption] The idea that women might be lucky to be single has not been a part of popular culture since The Mary Tyler Moore Show ended in 1977. Too many women feel like they are on the outside… Continue Reading

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