• Feeling Stuck?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 15, 2010
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    People get stuck in grief. People get stuck in affairs. People get stuck in resentments. People get stuck in depression. People get stuck in their fears. People get stuck in a lack of action. People get stuck in being self-absorbed. People get stuck in feeling life lacks meaning. Before you… Continue Reading

  • Broken Hearts, Breaking Up & The Brain

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 30, 2010
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    [caption id="attachment_1109" align="aligncenter" width="425" caption="Broken Up or Cocaine Addict?"][/caption] The brain is where it's at in terms of making psychotherapyidea more effective. Brain research is so exciting it's almost enough to make me want to start my career over again. One of the most difficult things I encounter is when… Continue Reading

  • It’s Hard to Witness Pain

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 10, 2010
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    Witnessing profound pain is something I do every day. I've literally spent decades doing it. I've been at the hospital with rape victims, visiting women in prison, with children and adults who have been violently sexually abused and want no one to know who did it, with parents who've lost… Continue Reading

  • 3 Problems When You Bash Your Partner

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 13, 2010
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    It is so easy to complain. Many women bash their partner to their girlfriends. Whining to someone else rather than having a truthful dialogue with your partner is not a good idea. Reading an entire stack of books that places all the blame on one person is a tragic stance.… Continue Reading

  • Do You Know What You Want?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 6, 2010
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    I work with many people who really struggle when I ask them what they want. For many, there is a strong, inner pull to only attend to another's wants because it is easier. They often will be drawn to someone who is very clear about their wants and goes after… Continue Reading

  • Texting & Emotional Distancing

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 29, 2010
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    It has become ordinary to send a text to break up or to say I love you for the first time. It's a way to play it safe and escape from difficult emotions. Breaking up by text avoids the hard parts of rejection. Avoiding the hard parts is what emotional… Continue Reading

  • Hope is a Curse and a Blessing

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 26, 2010
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    "Hope could be more painful than despair." From Against a Dark Background by Iain M. Banks Hope is very interesting because it is crucial to our lives. We require hope to survive cancer, to cope with profound loss and to believe we will find a job when we are unemployed.¬†Hope… Continue Reading

  • Risk More Shamelessness

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 17, 2009
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    Junot Diaz,the author, spoke at Drue Heinz lectures tonight and it was very rewarding. He talked about his immigrant experience at the age of six from the Dominican Republic to New Jersey. A member of the audience asked him if he had advice for her as a teacher of ESL… Continue Reading

  • The Drummer; a movie about someone lost in life who finds their way

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 16, 2009
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    I started a group that meets monthly to watch independent films that are not widely released. I purchase these films by subscribing to www.filmmovement.com. In two and a half years the best one we've seen is The Drummer. It is a true treasure from Hong Kong. It is about an… Continue Reading

  • The Relentless Quest for Happiness

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 3, 2009
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    "The broadly engaged mind is the source of a happy life." Bromo in That Old Ace in the Hole by Annie Proulx Once again, fine literature offers an answer so illusive to far too many. Often people arrive in my office wanting happiness. I consider this a vague generalization that… Continue Reading

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