• Women’s Bodies

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 10, 2010
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    The most beautiful prostitute I ever worked with was completely unrecognizable 20 years later when she approached me in a theatre crowd. She had grown her body into a thick fortress  which I easily imagined would ward off all male advances. While I was surprised, I completely understood. Women can… Continue Reading

  • The Power of Fantasy and Overly Generous Women

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 19, 2009
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    "To answer your question," said Abigail, "I always gave Oscar the benefit of the doubt. That's how I put up with him."                                                        … Continue Reading

  • The Puzzle of Vulnerability

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 10, 2009
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    One reader arrived at my blog by typing in, "Why can't people talk honestly and be truthful about themselves?" As a culture we are at a high water mark of avoidance and deflection - We punish and ignore people when they're honest. I've lost clients because I've been honest. I… Continue Reading

  • Death is a Pinch to Remember to Live Life Well

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 5, 2009
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    "We carve out risk-free lives where nothing happens."  James Hillman, psychologist If we live all the days between 0 and 80 it is less than 30,000 days. Which really doesn't sound like a hell of a lot. So if you are 40 it's less than 15,000 days and 60 is… Continue Reading

  • Surviving Your Broken Heart in Divorce

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 20, 2009
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    It is a sad truth that fifty percent of marriages end up in divorce. Women are the ones who leave. Seventy five percent of divorce is initiated by women. There are so many reasons a relationship will end. One person gets a DUI and the other partner has to face… Continue Reading

  • Risk More Shamelessness

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 17, 2009
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    Junot Diaz,the author, spoke at Drue Heinz lectures tonight and it was very rewarding. He talked about his immigrant experience at the age of six from the Dominican Republic to New Jersey. A member of the audience asked him if he had advice for her as a teacher of ESL… Continue Reading

  • The Drummer; a movie about someone lost in life who finds their way

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 16, 2009
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    I started a group that meets monthly to watch independent films that are not widely released. I purchase these films by subscribing to www.filmmovement.com. In two and a half years the best one we've seen is The Drummer. It is a true treasure from Hong Kong. It is about an… Continue Reading

  • Drowning in Ambivalence

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 9, 2009
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    One of the hardest aspects of anxiety is that people find themselves drowning in ambivalence. According to dictionary.com ambivalence is "uncertainty or fluctuation, esp. when caused by an inability to make a choice."  People come to my office ambivalent about therapyidea, ambivalent about whether or not they love someone, ambivalent… Continue Reading

  • The Relentless Quest for Happiness

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 3, 2009
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    "The broadly engaged mind is the source of a happy life." Bromo in That Old Ace in the Hole by Annie Proulx Once again, fine literature offers an answer so illusive to far too many. Often people arrive in my office wanting happiness. I consider this a vague generalization that… Continue Reading

  • Taking the Easy Way Out

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 4, 2009
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    It seems I meet more and more people who are comfortable with taking the easy way out, like water seeking a down hill path. Teens who avoid looking for a summer job. Teens who casually announce they "don't do food service jobs". College grads who expect to walk into well… Continue Reading

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