• Feelings are Not the Linchpin to the Universe

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 30, 2009
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    It's so easy to fall into the trap of believing that feelings contain the secrets of your life. The truth is feelings are often exaggerated, deceitful, deceptive, defensive,indulgent, tricky, self-promoting and above all, manipulative. Feelings can drag you around like a Neanderthal man. Feelings are not the end-all or be-all.… Continue Reading

  • Making Distinctions About Guilt; Instead of Suffering from It

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 27, 2009
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    Guilt is a complicated business because there are two sides to it. Of course, there is a good aspect to guilt. Guilt is supposed to be a pinch to remind us to do the right thing even if we don't feel like it. Guilt is like the penalty fee on… Continue Reading

  • Restoring Range & Wholeness to Your Identity

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 20, 2009
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    In the beginning couples are attracted to the differences in each other. This is because, somewhere deep down we know that two sets of differences make up a greater whole. This is why Charlie Brown and Lucy spend so much time together in the comics. Life will be more interesting… Continue Reading

  • The Challenge of Letting Go

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 15, 2009
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    It is a challenge to let go when all you want to do is hang on and control. Let's begin with why people hang onto control. The kooky things we do always make sense (which is the title of the 4/09/09 entry on this blog). Being in control provides people… Continue Reading

  • 16 Ideas About Aging Well

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 30, 2009
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    These are ways to improve our relationship with ourselves: 1. Blame Less. 2. Find it easier to say  "I'm sorry" and meaning it. 3. Recognize complicatedness. 4. Don't expect others to love you enough to guess what you want. 5. Know that perspective really does make up for gravity. 6.… Continue Reading

  • Mary, Brenda & Missing Feminism

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 7, 2009
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    Sadly enough, feminism seems an archaic term. It has been simplistically defined as hating men and not respecting women who stay at home which was never the truth. Feminism was about having choices, deciding that being a woman was worthwhile and recognizing inequity. So many young women I meet seem… Continue Reading

  • Courage, the Opposite of Anxiety & Maya Lin

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 30, 2009
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    [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_V1grA-SFQ] I often ask anxious people what is the opposite of anxiety and they reply peacefulness. It is certainly more peaceful to be able to erase the tension from anxiety. A more useful opposite would be courage. The world would be a better place if we all had more courage.… Continue Reading

  • 13 Suggestions to Improve Your Relationship with Yourself

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 19, 2009
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    #1. Weigh in on your regrets and mistakes. Ask yourself what you have learned. Are you carrying any residual guilt or unfinished business? Do you need to make amends to anyone? Have you forgiven yourself and accepted your own humanity as a part of growing up? #2. Imagine yourself dead… Continue Reading

  • Viewing Cezanne & Reflecting on Heroes

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 19, 2009
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    The Philadelphia Museum of Art has a wonderful exhibition through may called Cezanne and Beyond. This exhibition demonstrates that Cezanne was pivotal to modern art and influenced so many artists over the years. Viewing Cezanne's still life with precarious fruit and tilted sugar pot on a small table with a… Continue Reading

  • The Kooky Things We Do Always Make Sense & The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 9, 2009
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    Psychology uses the words symptoms, defenses or resistance to describe the kooky things we all do. Too often what gets overlooked is how kooky things make sense. So a woman who has the caretaker role in a family becomes depressed and distant because she is drowning in other people's needs and… Continue Reading

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