Dating is such a tricky business. Everybody decides to give up at some point. People tell you, what a great time they had, and then they disappear and you never hear from them again. It’s frustrating. You end up barraging yourself with your own thought police, that says, well, what did I do wrong? I can’t understand it. 

And examining yourself with a microscope, trying to figure out what you need to do differently the next time. Not really the answer. Dating is a dance with someone else in uncertainty. What can you do about that? To feel okay, if you work toward more certainty within yourself, the more bearable, the messiness of dating will be. 

Becoming more anchored, more whole within you is really a big part of the answer. You can make the distinction of wanting someone, instead of needing someone. You won’t want too much, too fast & you won’t settle for too little.

You’ll have more clarity about what’s enough, and most important, you must learn to be open, authentic, and vulnerable. When you are stuck in feeling rejected, frustrated and discouraged  then everyone goes on the defense and decides to jump into rejecting first, hiding behind walls, really picking at why the other person isn’t good enough.  

The research shows, being more open is what works, and that requires feeling good about you. So you need to find your courage, to pull a lot of weeds. The more whole you are, the more weeds you can tackle. Join me to learn more about how to go about it.