elder care, eldercare, end of life care, death and dying, art of dying, art of dying well
“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” Norman Cousins

Death is something we avoid because it is our ultimate anxiety. Dying is a kick in the butt to pay attention to living life well. If we live to 80 we only have 80 Fall seasons ahead of us when we’re born. How many Falls do you have left until 80? Were you too busy to pay attention to Fall this year?

It’s easy to get caught up in deadening routines & allow time to slip through our fingers. NOT letting that happen is what Dying Well is all about. Too many people suffer from a lack of imagination or an ability to dream for themselves.

A vital life has to be worked at & earned.

If you’re trapped by anxiety then learn how to manage it, instead of allowing it to manage you. Stuck in a bad marriage? Then communicate and make new choices to make things different. Take a risk & explore possibilities.

One concrete way to evaluate your life right now is to evaluate your checkbook & your calender. Does your time & money go where you want it to? When did you last have fun?

The Eldercare section is inspired by my mother in law who dying right now. Watching my husband be the caretaker extraordinaire is very moving. A friend gave him the link to the Youtube video which was very helpful about the literal details of what a slow death entails. Even though the youtube video is an hour & a half I included it because it is so spot on.

Caretaking the Caretaker is crucial because so many forget to replenish themselves. The actual work of it can overload & exhaust those who live nearby. It is important to understand your own limits & boundaries.

66% of U.S. adults do not have a will according to EZLaw Wills & Estate Planning. There are very important specifics to consider in End of Life Care. I offer detailed questions & links to make this easier. It’s really a great idea to think about a green burial. In Pittsburgh we are lucky to have Penn Forest Natural Burial Park.

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