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In this movie we watch the sparkly beginnings of love disintegrate over time. Blue Valentine captures one of the saddest aspects of life. The camera shuttles back & forth between the lovely past & tragic present. It seems so authentic it’s painful to watch. Michelle Williams asks her grandmother “How can… Continue Reading
Many of us find great comfort in demonizing our ex spouses or ex friends to make it easier to banish them from our world. This is a very 1 or 10, black or white, self serving point of view. We call this either/or thinking which is always about the extremes.… Continue Reading
Divorced means you are wrapped up in grief because the dream of the family is lost. Being divorced is really about having a whole new world view come into play. Just like grief, being divorced takes a good amount of time to recover. It takes time to begin to think… Continue Reading
Divorce is an opportunity for people to indulge their intensity & hoarded resentments on to everyone. Normally sane people will shriek when they meet their spouse in the grocery store. They are past caring how it looks because they are fueled by self-righteousness. Divorce is an invitation to be your… Continue Reading
We all love Control or else you are lying to yourself. What is Control? One simple word: POWER. We insist we are right. We love the simplicity of winning. Nobody wants to be bothered with the messiness we might both be right. There are soooo many ways to win. We… Continue Reading
Forgiveness is something we have a hard time with, it seems to be very expensive real estate in the heart. We don’t forgive ourselves or others very easily. We carry on grudges for decades. I believe this is because we don’t accept the messiness of our own dark sides. In… Continue Reading
Rehab for Drug & Alcohol; Everyone dreads the idea of it. Rehab is really a good thing! Here is one person’s experience:Recently, I completed rehab through Greenbriar Treatment Center. I’ve been sober for almost four months now and oh how my life has changed. Let me take you back to… Continue Reading
I adored Lauren Groff’s book Fates & Furies. Which inspired this blog post & podcast episode #17. She reveals so many truths through her fiction about secrets & unfinished business & it’s impact on marriage. I highly recommend it as a portrait of a marriage with many twists & turns.… Continue Reading
Motivation is something I think about a lot. My first & favorite motivation tool that works for me as an individual is fear. My Dr. told me I was pre-diabetic, I believed him & it scared me. Next Month it will be 8 years I’ve exercised almost every day. Watching… Continue Reading
Many are born with a terrible desire to be liked. I believe Bill Clinton had a terrible desire to be liked when he lied and defined oral sex as not having sex. Nixon wanted to be liked. Too many of us, who are lucky to be ordinary want to be… Continue Reading
