DIVORCE: THE FINAL OPTION

Divorce often happens in year 6 to 10. research finds year 8 to be ordinary. In the 50s, it was called “The Seven Year Itch’. If your relationship is struggling in these years, it is an ordinary development. I can’t say that enough. It is ordinary to struggle in years 6 to 10 because all […]

Choices & Their Impact On Relationships PART 2

Life is chock full of choices. There are choices that are self defeating or even self destructive. Then there are choices that are life generating. It’s our choices that make up our life. It’s our choices that make the difference in having success in our relationships. Even when we feel we don’t have a choice, […]

Healthy Self-Esteem Is Critical For Healthy Relationships

Many relationships begin because one person is grabbing onto someone else to feel ok. Everybody wants to be loved, but the solution to this, is the age old wisdom that you have to love yourself first. Taking responsibility for our own choices & learning to accept both the good & the bad within all of us […]

WHAT CAN YOU DO TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP BETTER?

So often in relationships we are quick to focus our unhappiness on our partner. It’s their fault things don’t get better, right? It’s way too easy to blame others & not look at ourselves. Today I  invited Dr. Abby Medcalf on the show because I like her convictions about looking at yourself & what you […]

Silent Resentments & Unasked Questions Are Engines of Unhappiness

Stop & think about how many times you paint a picture in your head about somebody else & later you find out how wrong you really were. We all use the shortcut of making assumptions to fill in the gaps. You know what they say about assumptions & it’s so true! We avoid the “risk” […]

TRAUMA AFFECTS RELATIONSHIPS

Trauma deeply challenges our sense of safety and security in the world, which often has an impact on relationships. It’s natural for those who have suffered trauma to feel that building close relationships is frightening because they don’t want to experience more hurt. Someone who is coping with trauma may feel disconnected from themselves as […]

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