• Too Many are Lost in Fantasy & Too Many Lack Imagination

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 20, 2018
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    Fantasy leads too many on a wild goose chase & imagination is too easily stifled. What an interesting polarity of both the trouble fantasy can cause & how important imagination can be to explore the possibilities life offers. Both of these are true at the same time. Let’s explore the… Continue Reading

  • VIDEOS ON ANXIETY & RELATIONSHIPS

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 12, 2018
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    THIS FIRST VIDEO IS ABOUT ANXIETY & THE SECOND IS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS Video explains the answer to the question "What is anxiety?" This Video offers two techniques to try to manage your fears. The best thing about anxiety is that you can manage it instead of it managing you. Fears… Continue Reading

  • Passivity, Anxiety’s Evil Twin

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 26, 2016
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    Anxiety is about letting fear drive the train. Fear thrives on passivity. I was inspired to write this because I have so many clients who wait for things to come to them instead of going after what they want. "Uncle Bob knows somebody who can get me a job" and… Continue Reading

  • Anxiety, Shoulds, Duty & Exaggerated Obligation

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 28, 2014
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    Anxiety is the biggest problem I work with. Anxiety is a huge issue for tons of people. Anxiety means that fear drives your choices. Fear based choices make your world too small & tight which offers a false sense of safety. Often anxious people solve their fears with planning, controlling… Continue Reading

  • Feel Overwhelmed by Emotions? You are Not Alone!

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 10, 2014
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    Feeling overwhelmed by feelings with no clue how to manage them is at the core of addiction problems. A central problem of anxiety is being to easily swamped by fears. In depression it is feeling devastated by despair & hopelessness. Many people are overpowered by their anger as evidenced by… Continue Reading

  • Two Stressful Paths that Anxiety Travels Upon

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 8, 2013
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    One path is to be the kind, thoughtful people pleasing person who wants to be liked so they often have a hard time being genuine. The other path is to be irritable, impatient & cranky in order to be impervious. Both paths have piles of fear & insecurities underneath. The… Continue Reading

  • Considering Medication for Depression or Anxiety?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 19, 2012
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    There often exists great reluctance about taking pills to get better......I myself grew up that way, with a predisposed negativity. I still remember the first time I took adult aspirin & what a miracle it seemed to be, when I was a freshman in college. Even in High School, I… Continue Reading

  • Losing the Superbowl & the Value of Uncertainty

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 9, 2011
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    In relationships there is an enormous amount of uncertainty. Young couples leap into the certainty of sex because it is hard for them to tolerate all the uncertainty of beginnings. In a majority of relationships there is tremendous uncertainty in years 6 - 10, because all the illusions have fallen… Continue Reading

  • Anxiety and the Comfort of Law and Order

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 17, 2009
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    Fear of change is why we tell ourselves lies. Anxiety means we let fear be in charge and squelch our choices. Anxiety is the problem that presents in my office most often. We live in a fear-driven culture where the media portrays a snowstorm as life-threatening days before it arrives.… Continue Reading