• Fighting Couples & Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 16, 2010
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    One of my objectives in couples therapyidea is trying to encourage both people to feel safe enough to speak from a more vulnerable place. This can be very hard to do because of defensiveness and a history of unresolved problems. There is some exciting new research that may help couples… Continue Reading

  • Uncertainty & Empathy are Crucial for Couples Survival

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 25, 2009
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    The couples that can be toughest to work with, are those where someone has to be right, because then problems are about who wins and who loses instead of how to negotiate to take care of both people. A win/lose mentality is a shallow way to explore the inevitable irreconcilable… Continue Reading