• VIDEOS ON ANXIETY & RELATIONSHIPS

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 12, 2018
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    THIS FIRST VIDEO IS ABOUT ANXIETY & THE SECOND IS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS Video explains the answer to the question "What is anxiety?" This Video offers two techniques to try to manage your fears. The best thing about anxiety is that you can manage it instead of it managing you. Fears… Continue Reading

  • Control, What is it We Love?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 17, 2015
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    We all love Control or else you are lying to yourself. What is Control? One simple word: POWER. We insist we are right. We love the simplicity of winning. Nobody wants to be bothered with the messiness we might both be right. There are soooo many ways to win. We… Continue Reading

  • 80 Questions to Help Couples Practice Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 20, 2015
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    When couples become parents, it can become all to easy too lose track of Who are we without the kids? The US gets lost because it's the easiest plate to drop. Taking time out just for the two of you at least twice a month really matters. If couples aren't… Continue Reading

  • Integrity is All About Self-Confrontation

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 9, 2014
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    Integrity is the difference between being nice and being good. We live in a world that too easily values nice because nice is easy to do. Good is a whole lot more hard work. The Big Bad Wolf was really nice to Little Red Riding Hood before he ate her… Continue Reading

  • Relationships, Communication & Sharing Power

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 14, 2013
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    Think about all the arguing couples you know and ask yourself, how many of them are good at sharing power? There are many couples where one person caters to the other. Often men cater to women to make them happy in the beginning of relationships. Then there are many couples… Continue Reading

  • It’s Easier to be Self-Righteous When You Avoid Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 21, 2013
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    The longer you can go without input from someone else, the easier it is to convince yourself that your point of view is the only one that really matters. We all love nurturing our own beliefs. We go over & over & over something that bothers us and slowly build… Continue Reading

  • The State of Wonder (a novel) & Lack of Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 25, 2011
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    The State of Wonder is the newest book by Ann Patchett. She is famous for her novel Bel Canto which helped me understand more about Opera within a setting of a terrorism attack. "I write about what I don't know because I love doing research." she announced when she spoke… Continue Reading

  • Avoiding Emotions Crushes Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 26, 2011
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    "This (Washington D.C. ) is the most emotionally avoidant city in America."  David Brooks So many young people question whether it's even possible to have better than an average marriage. All kinds of people stay in half-baked relationships. People drift away from friendship without a single word of explanation. A… Continue Reading

  • We All Want to be Understood

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 20, 2011
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    "All of us are caught up in what Brooks calls 'the loneliness loop.' What drives us ultimately, is the need to feel understood by others."  3/7/11 Newsweek article on David Brooks & his new book The Social Animal Sometimes the impossibility of communicating accurately is overwhelming. Feeling understood is basic… Continue Reading

  • Parents & their Superficial Relationships with their Adult Children

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 24, 2011
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    Intimacy requires the  authenticity of disagreement, conflict and sharing the painful bits of life. It is impossible to be close to anyone without the truths that emerge from conflict. How can you really know anyone if you just settle for the superficial? Facebook & texting are tailor-made to keep things… Continue Reading