• Accepting Imperfections is What Makes Relationships Work

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 10, 2011
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    [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mx9ocubowMs&fs=1&hl=en_US] This you tube video ia all about love. Authentic love is all about embracing the imperfections of someone else. So many of my younger clients seem to be on a path of requiring perfection in a partner. Nobody gets all the pieces of the pie. Too many of us… Continue Reading

  • Fighting Couples & Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 16, 2010
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    One of my objectives in couples therapyidea is trying to encourage both people to feel safe enough to speak from a more vulnerable place. This can be very hard to do because of defensiveness and a history of unresolved problems. There is some exciting new research that may help couples… Continue Reading

  • Relationships are About Building Bridges

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 24, 2010
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    Relationships succeed if there is respect for differences. They fail if there is not. Two people, no matter how much alike, are not clones. In Pittsburgh, we are a city of bridges because we sit in a triangle of three rivers. Many of our bridges are very beautiful. The 16th… Continue Reading

  • Parallel Monologues vs. Real Dialogue

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 30, 2010
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    In my work with families and couples, I experience most people communicating in parallel monologues. Neither person is able to absorb, digest or really appreciate a point of view that is opposite of their own. Both people are so filled up with their own thoughts and feelings there is simply… Continue Reading

  • Too Many Silent Men & the Price Couples Pay

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 4, 2009
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    There's an old joke that women like silent men because they think they're listening. My experience is that the opposite is true. When men are silent about their wants everyone suffers. Women are often able to talk to their girlfriends about everything and anything (Sex in the City is evidence… Continue Reading

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