• Control, What is it We Love?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 17, 2015
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    We all love Control or else you are lying to yourself. What is Control? One simple word: POWER. We insist we are right. We love the simplicity of winning. Nobody wants to be bothered with the messiness we might both be right. There are soooo many ways to win. We… Continue Reading

  • Perfectionism, Fear, Control, Doubt & Anxiety

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 23, 2012
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    There are many ways to trick yourself into believing you are managing your worries & fears. There are many ways to hide out in perfectionism: Everything will be ok if I do my best to look good & try hard to get everything right. I must avoid being uncomfortable &… Continue Reading

  • Anxiety, Control & Criticalness Impacts Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 2, 2010
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    Control and criticism are often side effects of anxiety. They are like a set of earrings that match the necklace of anxiety. Alcohol and addictions can be the matching bracelet to this jewelry because that becomes a solution to tamp down the fears. When someone controls the labels alphabetically on their… Continue Reading

  • Working or Living with Someone Highly Sensitive

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 10, 2010
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    A former client requested this post. I will begin by saying this is not an easy situation. Highly sensitive people are like a sponge so full, that it doesn't want to soak up any more water. Someone else who is quick to be on the defense, can stop you dead… Continue Reading

  • The Challenge of Letting Go

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 15, 2009
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    It is a challenge to let go when all you want to do is hang on and control. Let's begin with why people hang onto control. The kooky things we do always make sense (which is the title of the 4/09/09 entry on this blog). Being in control provides people… Continue Reading

  • Control is the Opposite of Respect

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 14, 2009
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    I was on a plane circling JFK due to bad weather when the man next to me engaged me in conversation. He was the CEO of a small company that had just hired a psychologist to consult. He prided himself on soliciting input from the staff beneath him and he… Continue Reading