• Denial, PTSD & The Narrow Road to the Deep North

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 16, 2015
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    This is an extraordinary novel that makes you truly embrace the dark side of our humanity & provides a profound understanding of how easy & necessary it can be to use denial to survive. These are small miracles of accomplishment by the author Richard Flanagan. It is no wonder he… Continue Reading

  • Perfect Family Fractures in movie Force Majeure

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 18, 2015
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    This is a delightful, darkly comic Swedish movie about a family on a ski holiday in France where the father, when he finds himself in a crisis does not do what is expected of a man. These are two ordinary people who have no idea how to talk to each… Continue Reading

  • My work with Denial & the movie American Hustle

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 31, 2013
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    Denial is illusions. Illusions are denial. They are comforting & seductive. Throughout the movie there is the refrain "Everybody believes what they want to believe". We all love to pretend to ourselves & others……we all love our self-deception. My work involves interrupting belief systems with inconvenient truths: It's stupid to… Continue Reading

  • Denial (The Stories We Tell Ourselves) & the Novel Snowdrops

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 20, 2012
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    Denial is more powerful than love or hate. It is a force that most people underestimate despite reading about it in newspaper headlines. How did Sandusky's wife not know her husband was sexually abusing boys in their basement? I learned to respect denial over 30 years ago while developing the… Continue Reading

  • Wondering if You Love an Active Alcoholic?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 28, 2010
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    This is a secret suspicion that many people harbor. Many times the truth is still denied even after a great deal of evidence. Ignoring the problem is ordinary. A boyfriend can lose a number of jobs and his girlfriend will still go out drinking with him. A wife can be… Continue Reading

  • Lies We Tell Ourselves

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 12, 2009
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    [caption id="attachment_41" align="alignright" width="166" caption="The Good Apprentice, by Iris Murdoch"][/caption] Moments of despair bring us closer to hard truths. We all pretend. We pretend someone we love isn't crazy, an alcoholic, or hasn't betrayed our friendship. We pretend we aren't crazy, or alcoholic or haven't betrayed a friend. In 2008… Continue Reading

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