• Self-Esteem & the movie The Way, Way Back

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 19, 2013
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    Self esteem starts to "bake" in adolescence. It's part of why adolescence can feel so tragic because there is such a slim grip on feeling ok. I was moved by the raw truth of this movie, a week after watching an adolescent struggle with his self-esteem. The opening of the… Continue Reading

  • Self-Esteem & Self Image Struggles & Self Hatred

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • April 22, 2013
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    [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=litXW91UauE&w=560&h=315] Too often self-esteem means we see ourselves in a harsh critical light. This video captures exactly how deeply we twist reality and fail to see ourselves accurately. The video made me cry because I see this struggle with self-image & disgust on a daily basis. Our culture, our… Continue Reading

  • What is Self Esteem? What is Confidence?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 27, 2013
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    What is confidence? What is self esteem? They are both about learning how to believe in yourself, accepting your dark side and giving up trying to make everyone else happy but yourself. You have to risk exploring your own wants, learn to live with your own humanity and risk mistakes… Continue Reading

  • Shame, Self-Hatred & Self Destructiveness; Obstacles to Change

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 27, 2012
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    Shame, self-hatred & self destruction are often all intertwined. These three make the road to change an obstacle course. This is a triangle of defeat & can stop growth in its tracks. It's a trap that absorbs all of someones energy and it's hard to crawl out of..... The real… Continue Reading

  • Self-doubt & Insecurities Rob You & Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 24, 2011
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    It is easier to hide out in the familiarity of self-doubt than to face the hard work of building self-esteem. Self doubt is like an old familiar friend that we want others to take care of. Looking for reassurance outside of ourselves & avoiding staking a claim on our own… Continue Reading

  • Playing the Hero Often Makes Real Problems

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 2, 2011
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    Many relationships begin when someone wants to be rescued from their life, like Cinderella who found her prince. One way to jack up your self-esteem is to be the hero for someone else. Lenny, the hero of Super Sad True Love Story admits he has a history of dating abused… Continue Reading

  • Feeling Invisible? Consider your part in it.

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 7, 2011
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    Many people swallow too much of who they really are. They stop themselves from disagreeing with others, they smile & nod instead. Women & men bury themselves in too many hours at work or in being an expert caretaker of others and then ignore defining themselves. So many parents lack… Continue Reading

  • What Can be Done About Low Self-Esteem?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 18, 2010
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    Low self-esteem is definitely connected to a lack of practice in making choices. "Go along to get along" has to be a choice, unique to a situation, instead of a life style. If it becomes a life style, you will lose track of who you are. Many people arrive in therapyidea… Continue Reading

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