• Michael Vick, Forgiveness & Pittsburgh

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 12, 2015
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    Forgiveness is something we have a hard time with, it seems to be very expensive real estate in the heart. We don’t forgive ourselves or others very easily. We carry on grudges for decades. I believe this is because we don’t accept the messiness of our own dark sides. In… Continue Reading

  • Awkwardness & Doing things Badly to Begin with: Great Idea!

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 8, 2012
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    Mistakes are REALLY, REALLY, REALLY important! Fear has the power to stop you from making mistakes. I write about this often because I see more & more kids struggling to avoid mistakes & the larger world. The path to independence requires mistakes. "I won't do it if I can't do… Continue Reading

  • Mistakes & Forgiveness

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 25, 2010
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    I was lucky enough to work with women in prison and jail. I learned a lot about how hard it can be to maneuver a place for yourself in the world after making disastrous mistakes. Mistakes about a man's character, mistakes in judgement, mistakes in making impulsive decisions, mistakes born… Continue Reading

  • Trust is a Tricky Business

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 28, 2009
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    If you grew up unable to trust one parent in childhood it makes things difficult to figure out in the present. If you grew up unable to trust two parents in childhood it means trust can be a complete mystery. Sometimes trust is confusing because of a trauma when you… Continue Reading

  • For Parents & Kids Who’ve Left for College

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 19, 2009
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    It's important for kids to have enough space to grow into greater independence. Like my work, parents are supposed to do themselves out of the job. With all of our technology it is tempting to crowd kids with the parent's need for connection. This is similar to spanking because spanking… Continue Reading

  • Parents Visiting, Obligation or Genuine Interest?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 25, 2009
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    My husband and I grew up with a sense of obligation to be with our parents. It is interesting that neither of us was ever able to move very far beyond that. So it came as a surprise when I asked my son how he felt when we visited him… Continue Reading

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