• VIDEOS ON ANXIETY & RELATIONSHIPS

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 12, 2018
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    THIS FIRST VIDEO IS ABOUT ANXIETY & THE SECOND IS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS Video explains the answer to the question "What is anxiety?" This Video offers two techniques to try to manage your fears. The best thing about anxiety is that you can manage it instead of it managing you. Fears… Continue Reading

  • Marriage, Secrets & Unfinished Business from Childhood

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 15, 2016
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    I adored Lauren Groff’s book Fates & Furies. Which inspired this blog post & podcast episode #17. She reveals so many truths through her fiction about secrets & unfinished business & it's impact on marriage. I highly recommend it as a portrait of a marriage with many twists & turns.… Continue Reading

  • Relationships, Communication & Sharing Power

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 14, 2013
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    Think about all the arguing couples you know and ask yourself, how many of them are good at sharing power? There are many couples where one person caters to the other. Often men cater to women to make them happy in the beginning of relationships. Then there are many couples… Continue Reading

  • Lopsided Love Relationships & the novel: The Woman Upstairs

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 5, 2013
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    Relationships in love usually start out lopsided - someone loves the other more, it is the nature of relationships. The great achievement in relationships is when love evolves to be mutual and this begins with respect as the first building block. Over the long haul respect is more important than… Continue Reading

  • Relationships: 6 More Ideas to Improve Them (Part 2)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 19, 2013
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    How do you know when relationships are successful? What goals are therapists looking for when they do couples work? The following 6 ideas might improve your relationships: 1. It's crucial that both people feel able to be authentic with each other. In relationships trust matters and trust depends on authenticity.… Continue Reading

  • RELATIONSHIPS: One Simple Step to Improve Them Part 1

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 6, 2013
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    Relationships are the most important part of our life and improving them matters. Making just one simple change could make a huge difference. When something bothers you our first instinct is to avoid & deflect talking about it in all our relationships. Then in our silence our self-righteousness grows. Then… Continue Reading

  • My 4th Anniversary of Blogging (02/12/2013)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 11, 2013
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    Tuesday the 12th marks my 4th year of blogging. I built a free blog for personal growth & improving relationships. This is my 236th post which is an average of 59 a year. I've accomplished my goal of publishing once a week. It's a way to be creative & share ideas… Continue Reading

  • What’s Love Got to do with it??????

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 11, 2012
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    The Beatles were wrong in their lyrics "All you Need is Love." because that's only true for the first 6 through 9 years. Love makes the beginning of relationships so wonderfully, gloriously CERTAIN. Love keeps us drunk with certainty. It's Tina that knows the truth. Beginnings are the hardest part… Continue Reading

  • How to Stay Married Part 1

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 14, 2012
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    This post is written for my son Aaron who marries Kate today. I love this picture because it captures their playfulness together. Love is crucial because it greases the beginnings. It's also not enough to sustain a marriage to last more than a decade. Love depends on trust, honesty &… Continue Reading

  • Relationships in the movie Seeking a Friend for the End of the World

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 5, 2012
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    Claudia Puig of USA Today gives this delightful movie 3 1/2 stars out of 4. She says "Theres no chance of a happy ending, but its tender mercies speak volumes." I concur. After the two most recent posts on victims participating in terrible relationships, its clear this is true for… Continue Reading