• EXHAUSTED WOMEN & WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 1, 2023
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    Tiredness is often a triangle of trouble that includes guilt & fears. Wading through those feelings is no small task. They stick to your soul like gum on the bottom of your shoe & contaminate your belief in yourself. It helps to remember that your feelings are not facts. Thoughtfully… Continue Reading

  • MOTIVATION FOR THE WORK OF LOVE

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 2, 2023
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    What motivates you to have a better relationship or even a better life? Because it will take work. Do you do the work of loving someone? It’s work to accept the parts you find annoying or tedious - it’s work to make yourself understood - it’s work to listen to… Continue Reading

  • Let’s Talk About Online Dating & The Data

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 1, 2022
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    Dating is really hard work because there is so much uncertainty. Dating is a dance of two people not knowing each other & trying to figure out is it worth spending more of your precious time with this person. It takes time to really know someone. Dating can be both… Continue Reading

  • MALE DEPRESSION & EMOTIONAL INEXPRESSIVENESS

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 30, 2022
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    Often men keep from being vulnerable by being vague, especially about feelings. Feelings are avoided because they are confusing or hard to identify. Men often aren't encouraged to talk about their feelings. In fact, they're sometimes discouraged from doing so. Additionally, men often tend to shy away from vulnerable conversations.… Continue Reading

  • Understanding The Relationships Between Top Dogs & People-pleasers

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 14, 2022
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    This topic was a request from someone in my audience. This is a very common relationship pattern and it offers a real opportunity for both people to grow & improve who they are. People-pleasers of course go along to get along, they are helpful & kind & often neglect their… Continue Reading

  • People-pleasing In Relationships & What To Do About It

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 1, 2022
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    People-pleasing is a really powerful lifestyle in our culture & it has an impact on many relationships. People-pleasing is all about being heavily lopsided in pleasing others as a way of gaining their approval & maintaining relationships. People-pleasing is of course on a continuum, at work in a subordinate role… Continue Reading

  • Sex & Sexual Desire in Long Term Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 1, 2022
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    Sexuality is a complex, crucial activity. It's only on television where couples reach maximum orgasm easily. Our interest in sex naturally ebbs and flows over the course of a long- term relationship as we age or deal with life changes— It’s important to keep in mind that researchers have reliably found… Continue Reading

  • Manipulation In All It’s Complexity

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 4, 2022
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    Everybody manipulates to get what they want, even 3 year olds. I believe manipulation is part of our defense system. Manipulation are ways to win, to have power & control. There are socially acceptable positive manipulations in trying to win card games, smiling at someone to welcome them or a… Continue Reading

  • Individualism Hurts The US in Relationships

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 3, 2022
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    Great relationships start with your relationship to yourself. You will be harsh with others if you are harsh with yourself. There are three parts to every relationship. There is you, your partner & the US. Learning to sacrifice in order to take care of the US is something that is… Continue Reading

  • IN-LAW PROBLEMS & WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 9, 2022
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    Let’s examine in-laws who can help young couples or derail them on the path to relationship success. The biggest reasons for tension include in-laws giving unwanted opinions, partners taking their parents' side, and disagreements over how to discipline grandchildren. https://oembed.libsyn.com/embed?item_id=22972397 Two thousand married Britons took part in the 2017 study… Continue Reading

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