• It’s Hard to Live with Someone Who Lacks Empathy

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 16, 2019
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    Empathy is defined as the “intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another” (dic.com). Empathy is an important part of the process in bonding. When two people can imagine how the other person feels… Continue Reading

  • Couples Never Fighting=Not a Good Thing

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 15, 2019
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    “I’m not ready to make nice, I’m not ready to back down.” The Dixie Chicks If you never fight, then nobody’s home. Trouble in relationships is always about the extremes. It’s just as problematic as fighting all the time because both… Continue Reading

  • Married Man Here is My Goodbye Letter (to My Married Lover)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 12, 2019
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    Married Man with a mistress; he has all the benefits of lying while she pays the price of delaying her opportunities to find someone who loves her first & foremost. Affairs with a married man cost so much and it’s… Continue Reading

  • Relationships Require Vulnerability

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    Share the Love & Spread the Word PLEASE Tweet or SHARE on Facebook (sooooo helpful)Subscribe on iTunes: HERE or Sticher: (HERE for androids)   & please leave a review. THANKS!!!!! After almost 40 years of working to help couples, I offer a podcast of… Continue Reading

  • Accepting Imperfections is What Makes Relationships Work

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    This you tube video ia all about love. Authentic love is all about embracing the imperfections of someone else. So many of my younger clients seem to be on a path of requiring perfection in a partner. Nobody gets all… Continue Reading

  • Guilt is Too Often Exaggerated Which Causes Stress

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    Guilt is often exaggerated which creates suffering. Our ability to twist & turn a normal situation into a dramatic episode leading to self torture is amazing. I listen to people make wild, inventive leaps about what they should have done. This level… Continue Reading

  • Making Distinctions About Guilt; Instead of Suffering From It

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    Guilt is a complicated business because there are two sides to it. Of course, there is a good aspect to guilt. Guilt is supposed to be a pinch to remind us to do the right thing even if we don’t feel… Continue Reading

  • Teenagers; Parenting is Tough Work

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    “Remember that too much obedience will end up in spite.” – Fritz Perls“When you are a parent you are asked two questions a thousand times a day. Do you love me? Are you tough enough to handle this?” – Bob… Continue Reading

  • Parenting Advice

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    “Motherhood had been very real, very quotidian [ordinary], a primal human relationship, full of devotion and effort and strain, fraught with bitter calculation and the intimate battle of wills.”– from Holy Fire by Bruce Sterling“The realities of well-intentioned workaholic households don’t always… Continue Reading

  • Denial, Ptsd & the Narrow Road to the Deep North

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    This is an extraordinary novel that makes you truly embrace the dark side of our humanity & provides a profound understanding of how easy & necessary it can be to use denial to survive. These are small miracles of accomplishmentby… Continue Reading