• Affairs, Infidelity & Getting Caught Stepping Out: Is it just the sex?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 9, 2014
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    Affairs & Infidelity are rarely as simple as someone was good while the other was bad. This is too simplistic an explanation but we all love it because it's easier to digest,rather than the difficult truths underneath. We love the simplicity of being judgmental or of gossip; someone is the… Continue Reading

  • The Good Wife Season Finale & the Test of Love

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 23, 2011
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    The Good Wife is currently the best drama on t.v. I'm not sure why so many more women watch than men. I suspect women watch it because the female characters are complex & three dimensional. Women are important and have an impact in their roles as lawyers, wives, grandmothers &… Continue Reading

  • Infidelity & Complicatedness

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 8, 2010
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    Infidelity is never a simple matter. Brothers & Sisters has done a good job of illustrating this in last night's show "Resolved" aired 11/07/10.  Too many people simplify affairs into bad guy/good guy. Yes, Scotty admits he was WRONG in capital letters and he has a story to tell about… Continue Reading

  • Broken Hearts, Breaking Up & The Brain

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 30, 2010
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    [caption id="attachment_1109" align="aligncenter" width="425" caption="Broken Up or Cocaine Addict?"][/caption] The brain is where it's at in terms of making psychotherapyidea more effective. Brain research is so exciting it's almost enough to make me want to start my career over again. One of the most difficult things I encounter is when… Continue Reading

  • Real Love is About Paying Attention

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 5, 2010
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    The most authentic love story I've read in a long time is Lark and Termite by Jayne Anne Phillips. It tells the love story of Lark, half-sister of Termite, who has hydrocephalus (a condition of fluid in the brain which enlarges the head). In the backdrop are three more unusual… Continue Reading

  • Misguided Jenny Sanford & the Comfort of Blame

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 4, 2009
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    First Lady Jenny Sanford said: “Of course I’m not saying that Mark is gay. But he may as well be. The moral decay in this country has claimed another victim and this time it was my family. Our marriage was perfect until these laws started passing around the country. Clearly… Continue Reading

  • Too Many Silent Men & the Price Couples Pay

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 4, 2009
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    There's an old joke that women like silent men because they think they're listening. My experience is that the opposite is true. When men are silent about their wants everyone suffers. Women are often able to talk to their girlfriends about everything and anything (Sex in the City is evidence… Continue Reading

  • Couples & Anger: Two Choices Revealed in Two Movies

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 16, 2009
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    Anger is a tricky business. Anger is important to adolescents because it creates distance and a sense of power when they are frustrated by parents. Anger is an important tool when used constructively. Anger is about making room for the differences. When anger is ugly it erases people and the… Continue Reading

  • Affairs & What’s Missing from Elizabeth Edwards Viewpoint

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 18, 2009
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    [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wA756Iyy0KM]  It's a terrible thing to battle breast cancer, the discovery of your husband's affair and the possibility the child is his all at the same time. It's a lot to pile on any one person, so I hesitate to add to the pile, but nowhere do I see any… Continue Reading