• CHANGING YOU IS HARD WORK & WORTH IT!

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 2, 2020
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    Changing yourself to become a better person is a valiant effort. Nothing is consistent about life except change. Embracing opportunities to learn & grow is something I never get tired of. Learning is beginning to think about things in a fresh, new way. That’s what I offer you here on… Continue Reading

  • Art & therapyidea: Both Attend to the Part that’s Missing or Lopsided

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 5, 2014
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    Improving self-awareness is often a key to success in psychotherapyidea. In sessions I often consider how someone is lopsided or what's missing. Three of the art works at the 2014 Carnegie International did exactly the same thing in paying attention to opposite energy. Fear is something many people are lopsided… Continue Reading

  • Choices, Awareness, Complicatedness & David Wallace Foster

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 25, 2011
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    This is Water is a commencement speech given by David Foster Wallace in 2005 @ Kenyon College. While 14,000 people have listened to the 10 minutes of Part 1 on you tube only 8,000 have listened to the 12 1/2 minutes of Part 2. I will link part 1 at… Continue Reading

  • Change is Really Hard

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 17, 2010
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    So many things can get in the way of changing. Hopelessness can suffocate the tender beginnings of change, such as pretending that merely attending 50 minutes of therapyidea is more than enough effort. Profound anxiety can interrupt trying something new. A long history of resentments that feels like there is no bottom… Continue Reading

  • Making Yourself More Solid Makes Relationships Work

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 5, 2010
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    The more you know who you are and what's important, the more likely your relationship will survive. Knowing what anchors you is important to figure out. When you don't know what matters you may end up expecting your partner to meet those needs for you. Relationships that only cater to… Continue Reading

  • Taking the Easy Way Out

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 4, 2009
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    It seems I meet more and more people who are comfortable with taking the easy way out, like water seeking a down hill path. Teens who avoid looking for a summer job. Teens who casually announce they "don't do food service jobs". College grads who expect to walk into well… Continue Reading

  • 16 Ideas About Aging Well

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 30, 2009
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    These are ways to improve our relationship with ourselves: 1. Blame Less. 2. Find it easier to say  "I'm sorry" and meaning it. 3. Recognize complicatedness. 4. Don't expect others to love you enough to guess what you want. 5. Know that perspective really does make up for gravity. 6.… Continue Reading

  • 13 Suggestions to Improve Your Relationship with Yourself

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 19, 2009
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    #1. Weigh in on your regrets and mistakes. Ask yourself what you have learned. Are you carrying any residual guilt or unfinished business? Do you need to make amends to anyone? Have you forgiven yourself and accepted your own humanity as a part of growing up? #2. Imagine yourself dead… Continue Reading

  • Easier Said Than Done & Kitchen Nightmares

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 20, 2009
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    In response to a comment about my Top Chef blog entry I want to acknowledge that change is easier said than done. Watching one episode of Chef Gordon Ramsay in Kitchen Nightmares is a clear demonstration of how hard it is to change. Ramsay goes to restaurants on the verge… Continue Reading

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