• It’s Hard to Live with Someone Who Lacks Empathy

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 16, 2019
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    Empathy is defined as the “intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another” (dic.com). Empathy is an important part of the process in bonding. When two people can imagine how the other person feels it leads to support and connectedness. Often it is men… Continue Reading

  • Couples Never Fighting=Not a Good Thing

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 15, 2019
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    “I’m not ready to make nice, I’m not ready to back down.” The Dixie Chicks If you never fight, then nobody’s home. Trouble in relationships is always about the extremes. It’s just as problematic as fighting all the time because both lack respect for two people. Often couples arrive in my… Continue Reading

  • Married Man Here is My Goodbye Letter (to My Married Lover)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 12, 2019
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    Married Man with a mistress; he has all the benefits of lying while she pays the price of delaying her opportunities to find someone who loves her first & foremost. Affairs with a married man cost so much and it’s easy to pretend & keep the fantasy burning bright. Who… Continue Reading

  • Too Many are Lost in Fantasy & Too Many Lack Imagination

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 4, 2019
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    Fantasy leads too many on a wild goose chase & imagination is too easily stifled. What an interesting polarity of both the trouble fantasy can cause & how important imagination can be to explore the possibilities life offers. Both of these are true at the same time. Let’s explore the… Continue Reading

  • Marriage, Secrets & Unfinished Business from Childhood

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 22, 2019
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    I adored Lauren Groff’s book Fates & Furies. Which inspired this blog post & podcast episode #17. She reveals so many truths through her fiction about secrets & unfinished business & it’s impact on marriage. I highly recommend it as a portrait of a marriage with many twists & turns.… Continue Reading

  • Motivation Can Be Improved! How Do You Motivate Yourself?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 22, 2019
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    Motivation is something I think about a lot. My first & favorite motivation tool that works for me as an individual is fear. My Dr. told me I was pre-diabetic, I believed him & it scared me. Next Month it will be 8 years I’ve exercised almost every day. Watching… Continue Reading

  • People Pleasing is Cured by Being Authentic

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 22, 2019
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    Many are born with a terrible desire to be liked. I believe Bill Clinton had a terrible desire to be liked when he lied and defined oral sex as not having sex. Nixon wanted to be liked. Too many of us, who are lucky to be ordinary want to be… Continue Reading

  • Married Man; Here is My Goodbye Letter (to My Married Lover)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 11, 2018
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    Married Man with a mistress; he has all the benefits of lying while she pays the price of delaying her opportunities to find someone who loves her first & foremost. Affairs with a married man cost so much and it's easy to pretend & keep the fantasy burning bright. Who… Continue Reading

  • Motivation Can Be Improved! How Do You Motivate Yourself?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 2, 2018
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    Motivation is something I think about a lot. My first & favorite motivation tool that works for me as an individual is fear. My Dr. told me I was pre-diabetic, I believed him & it scared me. Next Month it will be 8 years I’ve exercised almost every day. Watching… Continue Reading

  • Too Many are Lost in Fantasy & Too Many Lack Imagination

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 20, 2018
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    Fantasy leads too many on a wild goose chase & imagination is too easily stifled. What an interesting polarity of both the trouble fantasy can cause & how important imagination can be to explore the possibilities life offers. Both of these are true at the same time. Let’s explore the… Continue Reading