• Grief & Loss Survival in Relationships (Interview)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    GRIEF is about how you feel inside after you’ve experienced a loss. We all experience many losses in life; death of a loved one is, for some, the most challenging. Interview with Jan McCarthy M.S.W.Her email: peaceofwork1@comcast.net Share the Love & Spread the Word PLEASE Tweet or SHARE on Facebook… Continue Reading

  • Grief & the Struggle to Go Forward

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 10, 2019
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    It’s as if a giant stop sign has been dropped into your life when someone experiences grief. The process of grief, like a fingerprint, is unique for each one of us. A year or so ago I read a “My Turn” essay in Newsweek written by the best friend of… Continue Reading

  • Divorced? It’s Messy and Grief is a part of it

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 22, 2019
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    Divorced means you are wrapped up in grief because the dream of the family is lost. Being divorced is really about having a whole new world view come into play. Just like grief, being divorced takes a good amount of time to recover. It takes time to begin to think… Continue Reading

  • Silence When Tragedy Strikes & the novel The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 20, 2012
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    This novel reveals the terrible impact of silence upon a couple after tragedy occurs. Silent grief feeds blame & resentment which destroys any ability to communicate. When hard things remain unspoken between people then the distance grows exponentially. One of the beautiful parts of this book is that it is about… Continue Reading

  • New Web Site Page on Eldercare & Dying Well

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 17, 2011
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    "Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live." Norman Cousins Death is something we avoid because it is our ultimate anxiety. Dying is a kick in the butt to pay attention to living life well. If we live to… Continue Reading

  • My Friend Patrick who Died 18 years ago, Remains Unforgotten

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 8, 2011
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    [caption id="attachment_1777" align="alignleft" width="232" caption="Patrick Kelly, who died at 40."][/caption] What power my relationship with Patrick still has, even 18 years after his death. He was the most vibrant person I knew. I have lived well because he remains in my heart reminding me how fleeting our time is on… Continue Reading

  • Being a Witness to Someone Else’s Pain is Vital

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • May 7, 2011
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    In the great, raw, howling moments of pain; having a witness matters. There have been many times where the only thing I can do is be a witness to profound pain. I don't dismiss this as unimportant or as merely catharsis. When someone allows you to witness the depth of… Continue Reading

  • It’s Hard to Witness Pain

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 10, 2010
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    Witnessing profound pain is something I do every day. I've literally spent decades doing it. I've been at the hospital with rape victims, visiting women in prison, with children and adults who have been violently sexually abused and want no one to know who did it, with parents who've lost… Continue Reading

  • The Value of Difficulty

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 2, 2010
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    The outdoor amp where lectures are heard at Chautauqua The title of this post was borrowed from a lecture/conversation between Anne Fadiman (who said it) and Roger Rosenblatt who offered the morning lecture together, on July 1st at Chautauqua Institution (www.ciweb.org.) During the nine weeks of the Institution's summer season… Continue Reading

  • Grief & the Struggle to Go Forward

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 29, 2010
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    It's as if a giant stop sign has been dropped into your life when someone experiences grief. The process of grief, like a fingerprint, is unique for each one of us. A year or so ago I read a "My Turn" essay in Newsweek written by the best friend of… Continue Reading