• Couples Never Fighting=Not a Good Thing

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 15, 2019
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    “I’m not ready to make nice, I’m not ready to back down.” The Dixie Chicks If you never fight, then nobody’s home. Trouble in relationships is always about the extremes. It’s just as problematic as fighting all the time because both lack respect for two people. Often couples arrive in my… Continue Reading

  • Boundaries & How to do them

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 22, 2019
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    Boundaries require you to risk being uncomfortable. Every relationship is about respecting the differences. The differences will not be respected if they remain unspoken. The discomfort is worth it because it’s how you grow. You can’t grow without being uncomfortable. This post is being written at the request of a… Continue Reading

  • Control, What is it We Love?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 22, 2019
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    We all love Control or else you are lying to yourself. What is Control? One simple word: POWER. We insist we are right. We love the simplicity of winning. Nobody wants to be bothered with the messiness we might both be right. There are soooo many ways to win. We… Continue Reading

  • Control, What is it We Love?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 17, 2015
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    We all love Control or else you are lying to yourself. What is Control? One simple word: POWER. We insist we are right. We love the simplicity of winning. Nobody wants to be bothered with the messiness we might both be right. There are soooo many ways to win. We… Continue Reading

  • DEFENSIVENESS, A BAD HABIT THAT DESTROYS COMMUNICATION.

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 24, 2015
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    Defensiveness is a powerful way to reassure yourself. Everybody does it almost every day if they have relationships. Defensiveness is a knee jerk reaction that says "Oh,no that's not me, you don't get what a good person I really am! I am so misunderstood." The irony is that the misunderstanding… Continue Reading

  • Couples Never Fighting=Not a Good Thing

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 22, 2015
    • 0

    "I’m not ready to make nice, I’m not ready to back down." The Dixie Chicks If you never fight, then nobody’s home. Trouble in relationships is always about the extremes. It's just as problematic as fighting all the time because both lack respect for two people. Often couples arrive in… Continue Reading

  • 80 Questions to Help Couples Practice Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 20, 2015
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    When couples become parents, it can become all to easy too lose track of Who are we without the kids? The US gets lost because it's the easiest plate to drop. Taking time out just for the two of you at least twice a month really matters. If couples aren't… Continue Reading

  • Boundaries & How to do them

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 26, 2014
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    [caption id="attachment_3144" align="aligncenter" width="300"] Defenses @ Fort in India[/caption] Boundaries require you to risk being uncomfortable. Every relationship is about respecting the differences. The differences will not be respected if they remain unspoken. The discomfort is worth it because it's how you grow. You can't grow without being uncomfortable. This… Continue Reading

  • Relationships, Communication & Sharing Power

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 14, 2013
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    Think about all the arguing couples you know and ask yourself, how many of them are good at sharing power? There are many couples where one person caters to the other. Often men cater to women to make them happy in the beginning of relationships. Then there are many couples… Continue Reading

  • Couples Fighting & the Movie Before Midnight

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 31, 2013
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    This movie offers a glimpse of real life in the fighting between Ethan Hawke & Julie Delpy after 20 years of being together. In the first 6 to 9 years there is a lot of catering that goes on in the name of love. Then the illusions fall off &… Continue Reading