• Anxiety, Shoulds, Duty & Exaggerated Obligation

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 28, 2014
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    Anxiety is the biggest problem I work with. Anxiety is a huge issue for tons of people. Anxiety means that fear drives your choices. Fear based choices make your world too small & tight which offers a false sense of safety. Often anxious people solve their fears with planning, controlling… Continue Reading

  • The Path to Improve Motivation Requires Being Authentic

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 10, 2014
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    [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BOksW_NabEk&w=560&h=315] Motivation seems illusive for so many people. Motivation isn't simply being positive. Don't falsely perky waitresses drive you crazy because it's really all about being trained to sell an upgrade; there is nothing real about it. I contend that motivation has to be real in some way. Passion… Continue Reading

  • UKRAINE, Why Should We Care About Russia’s Aggression?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 20, 2014
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    This post is written by a guest, Adriana Helbig. A description of her credentials follows the post. She is so passionate about what is happening, that she went on a hunger strike for a week in Pittsburgh. “If not I, then who?” said Ivan, 27, an engineer in Lviv, western… Continue Reading

  • WHAT DOES “BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH” MEAN TO YOU?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 1, 2014
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    October is Breast Cancer Awareness month & I am reblogging most of the post I found from Lara K. Huffman's blog Get Up Swinging: The Boobs are Fake, The Snark is Real: Well, I wanted to ask other folks with cancer, any cancer, the question: “What does Breast Cancer Awareness Month… Continue Reading

  • OCD & learning more about it leads to Control

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • September 15, 2014
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    OCD isn't just about washing your hands like Lady Macbeth. OCD is the disease of anxiety on steroids. Fear is in charge & by thinking obsessively or following compulsive rituals you create a sense of "safety" which is stolen from fear. The French once called OCD ‘la folie de doute’… Continue Reading

  • Guilt is Too Often Exaggerated which causes Stress

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 29, 2014
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    Guilt is often exaggerated which creates suffering. Our ability to twist & turn a normal situation into a dramatic episode leading to self torture is amazing. I listen to people make wild, inventive leaps about what they should have done. This level of self torture really needs to be interrupted… Continue Reading

  • Feel Overwhelmed by Emotions? You are Not Alone!

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • August 10, 2014
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    Feeling overwhelmed by feelings with no clue how to manage them is at the core of addiction problems. A central problem of anxiety is being to easily swamped by fears. In depression it is feeling devastated by despair & hopelessness. Many people are overpowered by their anger as evidenced by… Continue Reading

  • Restoring My Relationship to Music with Thanks to Keith Richards

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 27, 2014
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    On vacation I finally had time to update my music using itune's Genius recommendations. I stayed up really late because I was having such a good time discovering Emily Bell, Ed Sheeran, The Peach Kings, Kim Logan and my favorite Audra Mae & The Almighty Sound. Reading Keith Richard's biography… Continue Reading

  • Snowpiercer the Movie & How to Build Character

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • July 12, 2014
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    Snowpiercer is a wonderful "end of the world" movie. We seem to be swimming in apocalyptic films & t.v. shows. I've always loved science fiction in books because it was an appreciation learned from my Father. Snowpiercer is extremely dark with a high body count. Snowpiercer is a metaphor for… Continue Reading

  • Feeling Lost ? How to Carve a Niche for yourself in the World

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • June 30, 2014
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    Many people arrive in my office and describe themselves as lost. Women whose kids have grown, men who decide to leave a criminal lifestyle behind, partners who allowed someone else to define the primary relationship, those who have always taken the easy way out or those with huge college debt… Continue Reading

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