• A Terrific TV Show; Parenthood has Authenticity & Intimacy

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 1, 2013
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    The second half of season 4 began Jan. 1st on NBC @ 10pm. I read about this series because it was on Rob Owen's Top 10 list for 2012 for the Pittsburgh Post Gazette. He said that season 3 & 4 were terrific, so I decided to find out for… Continue Reading

  • Feeling Disconnected @ the Holiday Time of Connections

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 21, 2012
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    Loneliness Is a place that I know well It's the distance between us And the space inside ourselves lyrics by Annie Lennox in her song Loneliness Holidays are about gatherings & connectedness. It's very hard for the buckets of people who feel lonely during all the festivities. Whether it's a… Continue Reading

  • Making Assumptions about Others Can be Very Creepy & Cheats Intimacy

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 11, 2012
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    Assumptions are all about avoiding vulnerability. Assumptions cheat us out of the possibility for real dialogue. It is only through honest dialogue that we can have intimate relationships. Why do we like hiding out in assumptions? 1. Assumptions are shortcuts. 2. They avoid the messy uncertainty of dialogue. Assumptions are… Continue Reading

  • Addictions & the movie Flight

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • December 3, 2012
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    Denzel Washington plays an addicted pilot with exquisite distinction. He demonstrates the powerful grip of addictions & how hard it can be to release yourself. It is painful to watch his bad choices pile up.......while he teeters on the brink of complete self-destruction. You watch the lying almost in admiration… Continue Reading

  • Anxiety About Sex & the movie The Sessions

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 27, 2012
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    This is based on the true story of a man who spent most of his life in an iron lung because of polio. (I remember polio as a big deal because my oldest cousin wore a brace because of it.) He is a virgin who decides to explore the world… Continue Reading

  • Silence When Tragedy Strikes & the novel The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 20, 2012
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    This novel reveals the terrible impact of silence upon a couple after tragedy occurs. Silent grief feeds blame & resentment which destroys any ability to communicate. When hard things remain unspoken between people then the distance grows exponentially. One of the beautiful parts of this book is that it is about… Continue Reading

  • Exaggerating Our Feelings Stops Us from Being Our Best Self

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 13, 2012
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    There are so many ways that feelings wreck havoc on our lives. We feel we are entitled. We feel we are right. We love to blame others instead of look at ourselves. We feel defensive. We feel sensitive. We feel self righteously angry. The list of trouble making perspectives is… Continue Reading

  • For Parents who Fear Losing their Children to Addictions

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • November 6, 2012
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    This is one of the most terrible things to endure in life. It is absolutely heart breaking to file a report with the cops because your son or daughter has stolen your credit cards. It's hard to say they can't stay with you because they are still using drugs & who… Continue Reading

  • When Control is Ugly & Evolves into Abuse Part 2

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 30, 2012
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    Working at Pittsburgh Action Against Rape to develop the Incest Program in the early 80's I learned a lot about ugly levels of power & control in a relationship. Abuse is a word I am careful with. There is physical, emotional & verbal abuse and also neglect. There is a… Continue Reading

  • Are You Controlling to Reduce Anxiety? Part 1

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • October 21, 2012
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    Control means you like power. Everybody likes power. It is the nature of human relationships to struggle for power at work, at home or with friends. Some people have power in passive aggressive ways; "I'll smile at you now & undermine you later." Some people withhold information. Some people blow… Continue Reading

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