• Control Your Anger (how you can do it in 3 steps)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 26, 2013
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    Controlling anger can be very difficult because of passion, frustration or impatience. Your anger means that you demand being important. Controlling your anger makes relationships work better. Your anger can too easily smash others to bits because you are asking for too much. So learning to control your anger means… Continue Reading

  • Marijuana Use Daily; A Problem?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 18, 2013
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    Marijuana is a problem because you feel good without doing anything. Love of marijuana often goes along with a lot of coasting in life; sidestepping goals & not working too hard on studying because you are satisfied with just getting by. Life is a lot of hard work and we adore… Continue Reading

  • Divorced? It’s Messy and Grief is a part of it

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • March 11, 2013
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    Divorced means you are wrapped up in grief because the dream of the family is lost. Being divorced is really about having a whole new world view come into play. Just like grief, being divorced takes a good amount of time to recover. It takes time to begin to think… Continue Reading

  • What is Self Esteem? What is Confidence?

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 27, 2013
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    What is confidence? What is self esteem? They are both about learning how to believe in yourself, accepting your dark side and giving up trying to make everyone else happy but yourself. You have to risk exploring your own wants, learn to live with your own humanity and risk mistakes… Continue Reading

  • The Novel Crooked Letter, Crooked Letter & the Loneliness of Being Unknown & Suffering Betrayal

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 16, 2013
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                                                                                                    Crooked Letter… Continue Reading

  • My 4th Anniversary of Blogging (02/12/2013)

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • February 11, 2013
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    Tuesday the 12th marks my 4th year of blogging. I built a free blog for personal growth & improving relationships. This is my 236th post which is an average of 59 a year. I've accomplished my goal of publishing once a week. It's a way to be creative & share ideas… Continue Reading

  • Fantasy: Crucial for Dreams & Creates Self Torture

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 29, 2013
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    Fantasy is important because it's how dreams get started. Dreams make life more interesting, give us hope and help us imagine how things can be better. The other side of this strength is the darkness of self torture. Self torture is restless and never certain that anything is ever enough.… Continue Reading

  • It’s Easier to be Self-Righteous When You Avoid Communication

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 21, 2013
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    The longer you can go without input from someone else, the easier it is to convince yourself that your point of view is the only one that really matters. We all love nurturing our own beliefs. We go over & over & over something that bothers us and slowly build… Continue Reading

  • Anger, Shame & Silence @ the core of PTSD & the novel The Garden of Evening Mists

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 15, 2013
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    The Garden of Evening Mists was short listed for the Man Booker Award. It is a glorious novel that takes place in war-torn Malaysia after the Japanese occupation which resulted in 100,000 deaths. It captures all the layers of PTSD and the power of traumatic experiences. It is a marvel… Continue Reading

  • Two Stressful Paths that Anxiety Travels Upon

    • Rhoda Mills Sommer
    • January 8, 2013
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    One path is to be the kind, thoughtful people pleasing person who wants to be liked so they often have a hard time being genuine. The other path is to be irritable, impatient & cranky in order to be impervious. Both paths have piles of fear & insecurities underneath. The… Continue Reading

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